An Ode to My Mother

(Update late April: yes, I am adding photos as I scan them, so this gallery will continue to evolve and change. Friends and family who’d like to can add your own images by writing me and sending a scan or photo. Great memories, sad loss. One day at a time…)

My mother always told me never to miss an opportunity to thank someone or be kind to someone. She passed away yesterday morning, less than two weeks shy of her 83rd birthday. My mother has been the rock and foundation, the inspiration and moral compass for me, my brothers, and I suspect many others whose lives she touched as relative, colleague, teacher, neighbor and friend throughout her vibrant, warm, inquisitive and exemplary life. I will not go into greater detail about the remarkable human being whom we’ve lost; instead I have chosen to find every single photo readily available from past blog postings and put them into a collage which will change each time I (or you) come to look at this page. In part I have done this to remind myself of the quality time I have been able to spend with her during the adult phase of my own life, and partly to reassure myself that she felt thanked by me. I’m sure I was never as kind as I could have been, and I will try to learn as she would expect. So far as I can tell, these photos cover nearly 50 years of Mom’s life, since some of the earliest photos are ones I scanned a few years ago. Please join me in honoring the mothers and models in our lives…by being kind and thankful, as I am for my mother, and the support of my family and friends.

3 responses

  1. We don’t know each other but we have mutual Oberlin friends and I have been enjoying your blog. Today is the first anniversary of my mother’s death at the age of 93. Saying goodbye to your mom is so very hard – she will live on through you, and memories will surprise you when sights or smells or sounds trigger special times you shared. Know that her love will never leave you and you have lots of friends sending hugs and warm wishes. Take good care of yourself and give yourself time and space to grieve.

    Leanne Wagner Oberlin ‘76 (friend of Ellen Hertzman)

    On Sun, Mar 31, 2019 at 6:26 PM (so much world, so little time….) wrote:

    > somuchworldsolittletime posted: “My mother always told me never to miss an > opportunity to thank someone or be kind to someone. She passed away > yesterday morning, less than two weeks shy of her 83rd birthday. My mother > has been the rock and foundation, the inspiration and moral compass fo” >

    March 31, 2019 at 15:47

  2. What a beautiful tribute. Leanne is right: she will live on through you. My mom would have turned 78 today: although she died three years ago, I still catch myself wanting to call her and ask about something. Our mothers have given us so much over the years. Now we go forth with what we have, which never seems enough but is always more than we know. Christof, Kolya and I hold you in our thoughts. Love, Carrie

    April 1, 2019 at 14:16

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